Choice or Chance

“How you living?” This is an urban slang that is different from asking “How are you doing? The real question being asked is “How is life going for you?” In today’s sociological settings it is often used to ask about one’s socio-economic situation during very trying times. Think “how are you are doing in the current job market and with the high cost of living”, without using those words.” I’m hanging out with my Mom and Pops”. This response from a 37-year-old suggests that economic challenges or life circumstances have taken them back to live at home with their parents. Thinking more on the phrase, I believe this is a really a question of choice or chance. Chance means you are down on your luck and didn’t have a plan. Choice means you made the decision to move out of the luxury apartment and in with the parentals to save money for a down payment. It’s a simple proposition. If I consider the reality of how I am living, of the way things are in my life- am I there by choice or by chance?


Choice: the power of choosing, the freedom of choice, the opportunity to choose. It means that there is room for selection, room for preference, room for desires, room for consideration. It means the person making the choice can decide what matters most. Is it size, color, or cost that influences my choice the most? It might not be any of these – the person making the choice does not have to justify the criteria or their ranking. They have the power to choose. Choice is intention. It speaks to an intention to have a specific outcome. The intended outcome and therefore the choice is driven and framed by personal desires and goals. It can also just be plain old preference. I prefer to live alone; therefore I choose options in my life that afford me this preference. My employment choices, my financial choices, my geographic choices are all grounded in my desire to be able to choose where and how I live. Chance, on the other hand, is less driven and not framed. It is rooted in random possibility. Leveraging my fondness for the Oxford dictionary, chance is “the occurrence and development of events in the absence of any obvious design”. It suggests a willingness to just see what happens. It relies on uncertain outcomes. Outcomes that may be totally opposite from any desires or goals. But, because no design exists, not plans have been made and no choices have been executed… life becomes a series of uncertain outcomes.


Before we go further – even with choices, sometimes there are uncertain outcomes. We don’t control the world. Sometimes we make good choices, and sometimes we make bad choices. Bad choices can be those that are rooted in our intentions, our goals, our desires but are flawed in the consideration of what it takes to execute. Taking shortcuts, taking the easy way out are some of the bad inputs that influence the outcomes that go with good intentions. What’s the message? You choose. You choose how much of your life, how many of your decisions, how many of your outcomes you want to be driven by intention. You choose how much of your life, how many of your decisions and how many of your outcomes you want to be driven by chance, by possibility or by uncertain outcomes. How you living?

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